{"id":2647,"date":"2014-09-05T13:37:32","date_gmt":"2014-09-05T21:37:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.imortuary.com\/blog\/?p=2647"},"modified":"2014-08-20T13:46:09","modified_gmt":"2014-08-20T21:46:09","slug":"funeral-etiquette-funerals-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.imortuary.com\/blog\/funeral-etiquette-funerals-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"Funeral Etiquette: Funerals and Divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"Funeral<\/a>Funeral etiquette is complicated even under the most traditional of family circumstances, so when you throw in blended families and issues related to divorce and remarriage, things can quickly become tangled up. Is it acceptable to go to the funeral of an ex-spouse? What about extended family of your ex to whom you remained close? And what happens if you are footing part of the bill for the burial?<\/span> <\/p>\n

The most difficult thing about funeral etiquette when it comes to issues related to divorce is that there is no one-size-fits-all answer. Some families have better relationships than others. Grief sometimes gets in the way of sound judgment. And in many cases, it’s possible that the amount of time you’ve been divorced (and the presence of children) will dictate how appropriate it is for you to attend.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Rules Regarding Divorce and Funerals<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

There’s only one hard-and-fast rule when it comes to divorce and funerals, and that’s to be sure and communicate with the family in mourning. No matter how much you might want to pay your respects or how strongly you feel that the deceased would want you there, the immediate family is the most important consideration. Their feelings, their grief, and their desires should come first. If there is any indication that your presence will cause a strain, make an alternate plan to visit the gravesite at a later date.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

If you aren’t in a position to talk to your ex directly, try to contact someone in the family you know on a personal level. He or she may be able to feel the family out regarding your attendance—but don’t push too hard for an answer, as the family may have other, more important decisions to make at this time.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Additional Considerations<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n