{"id":4381,"date":"2019-05-11T05:00:44","date_gmt":"2019-05-11T13:00:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.imortuary.com\/blog\/?p=4381"},"modified":"2019-03-29T11:03:27","modified_gmt":"2019-03-29T19:03:27","slug":"how-to-ask-for-help-with-grief","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.imortuary.com\/blog\/how-to-ask-for-help-with-grief\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Ask for Help with Grief"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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How to Ask for Help with Grief<\/p><\/div>\n

If you have ever lost a loved one, chances are you’ve heard the phrase, “Please let me know if there’s anything I can do” so many times that it barely registers. <\/span><\/p>\n

This phrase, uttered with the best of intentions, says both everything and nothing when you have experienced a major loss. Everything, because it is wonderful to have people in your life who want to support you during this difficult time; nothing, because it’s extremely rare that you can come up with a specific task to assign them. When you are reeling from the pain of your loss, the overwhelming emotions that accompany grief, and a future without your loved one, you are in no position to micromanage all your friends and relatives to help you make it through the day. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, it is important to remember that people really do <\/span>want<\/span><\/i> to be useful to you. This is one time in your life when asking for help is not only expected—it is welcomed. By being able to support you during this difficult time, your friends and relatives will be better able to come to terms with their own loss and grief.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you need help after the death of a loved one, or if you find yourself struggling in the weeks, months, and even years following your loss, here’s how you can ask for help.<\/span><\/p>\n

Make a To-Do List<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

There are countless errands and tasks that need to be done before, during, and after a funeral. Make a list of everything and then separate it out into sections. One section can be things that only you can do; another can be errands that family members and friends are able to handle. When someone asks if there is anything they can do, take them up on it. Find an item on the list that matches their abilities and assign it to them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tasks do not have to be specifically related to the funeral. Depending on your situation, help might include:<\/span><\/p>\n