{"id":4443,"date":"2019-07-15T04:58:19","date_gmt":"2019-07-15T12:58:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.imortuary.com\/blog\/?p=4443"},"modified":"2019-06-25T09:04:47","modified_gmt":"2019-06-25T17:04:47","slug":"is-it-still-okay-to-bring-someone-a-sympathy-meal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.imortuary.com\/blog\/is-it-still-okay-to-bring-someone-a-sympathy-meal\/","title":{"rendered":"Is It Still Okay to Bring Someone a Sympathy Meal?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div id=\"attachment_4444\" style=\"width: 360px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.imortuary.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/scalloped-324247_1920.jpg\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-4444\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-4444\" src=\"https:\/\/www.imortuary.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/scalloped-324247_1920-350x239.jpg\" alt=\"Is It Still Okay to Bring Someone a Sympathy Meal?\" width=\"350\" height=\"239\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.imortuary.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/scalloped-324247_1920-350x239.jpg 350w, https:\/\/www.imortuary.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/scalloped-324247_1920-768x525.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.imortuary.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/scalloped-324247_1920-1024x700.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.imortuary.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/scalloped-324247_1920.jpg 1873w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 350px) 100vw, 350px\" title=\"Is It Still Okay to Bring Someone a Sympathy Meal?\"><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-4444\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Is It Still Okay to Bring Someone a Sympathy Meal?<\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Almost everyone associates plentiful, home-cooked casseroles with the death of a loved one. Whether on television, in the movies, or in real life, the practice of bringing food to help support the grieving family is one we are all familiar with.<\/span><!--more--><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, in our modern world, this isn&rsquo;t always easy to do. When you connect with people on social media more than in person, and when you are unsure about things like health restrictions and dietary needs, what&rsquo;s the right thing to do? Is it still okay to bring someone a sympathy meal?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course the answer is yes, but with some considerations. Read on for sympathy meal etiquette for the modern age.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communicate Your Intentions:<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Showing up on someone&rsquo;s doorstep with your arms full of food might sound like a good idea, but it can be awkward or difficult for the recipients. Because they are already dealing with so much right now, they might not be in the right frame of mind to accept your generous gift. Instead of surprising them, call ahead and talk with the family member who is likely to be in charge of meals. Let them know that you would like to contribute and ask when would be a convenient time for you to stop by. Offer them a few choices (&ldquo;I thought you might like either my famous lasagna or a nice homemade granola&rdquo;) and ask about any dietary restrictions.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Consider Quantity:<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> A family of four is unlikely to need three casseroles and an entire chocolate cake. However, a family of four who is hosting several out-of-town guests for the funeral might be incredibly grateful for this. Take quantity into consideration, and err on the side of too much food rather than too little. You can also portion the food so that it can be frozen and cooked later at the family&rsquo;s convenience.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Buy Disposable:<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> A turkey cooked in a cheap aluminum pan from the grocery store won&rsquo;t&nbsp; taste or look as good as one cooked in your heirloom roasting pan, but opt for the recyclable one anyway. The task of cleaning, tracking and returning all those dishes might be overwhelming for the family, especially if they get the dishes confused. Tape instructions on the top and do not plan on seeing that pan again&mdash;it is a small gesture but a thoughtful one.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stay for a Visit (or Don&rsquo;t):<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> One of the main reasons sympathy meals are still popular is that it provides an opportunity for human connection at a time when it is sorely needed. Oftentimes, it&rsquo;s not about the food at all&mdash;it is about showing that you care and taking the time out of your day to stop by and check on the family&rsquo;s needs. Plan to stay in case the family wants to talk&mdash;or plan to leave if they are occupied with other things. It is important to read the room and act accordingly.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the family&rsquo;s dietary restrictions make meal planning particularly difficult, or if you are unsure what kind of sympathy meal will be appropriate, you can also consider a food subscription box or gift card for a restaurant. These options offer flexibility and convey the same message without straying too far from tradition. <\/span><\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Almost everyone associates plentiful, home-cooked casseroles with the death of a loved one. 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